Thursday, January 28, 2010

In your face, Facebook!

So I did it!! I posted my pregnancy announcement on Facebook.

I used to gag, roll my eyes, and frequently cry when others would do this. It just made my infertile situation feel so much worse when others out there could easily get pregnant and just tell the world. Ugh!

I am finally 12 weeks and 1 day, so I decided, "Dammit! I've earned the right to post my announcement. I'm gonna do it!!" Of course I was a little concerned that I might unknowing upset someone out there who might be having trouble, but at the same time I want to celebrate my miracle with everyone I know. I'm tired of being "infertile" and acting accordingly. I'm tired of being fearful and holding back my joy. I want to be carefree as if this baby were easily conceived the old fashioned way. I want to allow myself to be NORMAL!!

So I did it...

"What's up world, it's Cilla! I'M PREGNANT and I'm not afraid anymore!!!!!"

This is NOT actually what I wrote, but it's what it felt like.
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13 comments:

  1. EmilyJanuary 28, 2010 at 4:50 PM

    Good for you! I fully plan on telling people how we conceived our bean...because damn it in-vitro shouldn't be so taboo!

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  2. PriscillaJanuary 28, 2010 at 4:54 PM

    Amen, Emily!!!

    I'm not posting "we did IVF!" on FB or anything, but when people try to tell me how hard it's gonna be or say "what a fun surprise!" I'm quick to tell them that this was an IVF baby...long fought for and no matter how much work it is I will LOVE IT!!

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  3. heartinchargeJanuary 28, 2010 at 4:59 PM

    I'm so glad you posted. I admit - it's sometimes hard to see pregnancy announcements and pictures of beautiful babies and toddlers who were born since I've been trying as profile pics. but i plan to be a proud and happy mama when I join them! the reason we go thru ivf is because babies are wonderful and wonderful reasons to celebrate. So celebrate! celebrate even more because of your struggle. make other IF women think that one day they can celebrate too and it's not hopeless for us. I hate to think that we who would celebrate the most would tone down our joy. We have such trouble relaxing as it is. ok Im gonna tear up now. congrats.

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  4. AmberJanuary 28, 2010 at 5:01 PM

    Good for you. And I feel you deserve to tell the world more than anyone else. This baby was a hard fought victory and will be loved so much more than easily conceived babies. You go tell the world!!!

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  5. RELHJanuary 28, 2010 at 5:50 PM

    I don't blame you at all! You deserve to show to be able to share your joy.. it was hard work!

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  6. RELHJanuary 28, 2010 at 5:51 PM

    *sorry.. meant to say.. "you deserve to be able to share your joy".... long day at work!

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  7. AnonymousJanuary 28, 2010 at 7:51 PM

    WOOO HOOO!!!! Coming from a girl who admittedly STILL does the "eye roll" when I see pg announcements on FB from girls who tried for ONE MONTH, I am MORE THAN HAPPY when infertile women get to post their announcements! Even though I havent been able to post that same announcement yet, thank you for slapping all of the "fertiles" in the face for the rest of us who are still trucking through TTC!

    YOU GO GIRL! =D

    XOXO God Bless

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  8. quadmomJanuary 29, 2010 at 7:57 AM

    Good for you, Cilla! You should get to revel in every moment of this pregnancy!

    I haven't said anything about our pregnancy on FB, but it's mostly because of the high risk nature of it. I am thinking it might be kinda funny if we are blessed enough to make it through with 4 healthy babies to just randomly post a pic of quads once they're born. haha.

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  9. TraceyJanuary 29, 2010 at 9:09 AM

    Go girl!!! Tell the world!
    With every cycle (except this last interestingly...) I would post my egg retrieval news with a cryptic "(Tracey) layed 14 eggs today...bawk, bawk" and some people understood and others would just say "Oh you're so funny!" I haven't posted anything yet and am thinking that I won't until I know what it is...honestly alomost everyone knows already anyway. I tend to be really open - too open I guess.
    Can't believe you're 12 weeks already!! Woo hoo!

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  10. LinJanuary 29, 2010 at 11:54 AM

    AWESOME!!! I've been struggling with the impending FB announcement, too, for all the same reasons. I want to celebrate, but I don't want to hurt anyone else either. I'm struggling with the same issue with the announcment at work. I need to post about it...

    Where has the time gone? You're 12 weeks already! WTG Mama!! :-)

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  11. babygagaJanuary 29, 2010 at 12:55 PM

    Good news for you!!!, I´m not so brave yet, and terrified that someone will accidentally out me on facebook.

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  12. NicoleJanuary 31, 2010 at 5:03 PM

    Haha, good for you! I'm going to wait until we know gender (hopefully in a week!!) and then share. I'm a little nervous about the TTCers who might be hurt by the announcement, but at the same time I definitely earned this moment and I think only the most hurting TTCers won't be happy for me. They all know we've been trying 4.5 years!

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  13. NicoleJanuary 31, 2010 at 5:03 PM

    PS- is it just me or have the weeks started whizzing by ever since about 8 weeks-ish? I love it! I just want it to be August already!

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